@chego2: i think they're at that stage and we have to survive it. have you started pulling your hair? i have :(
this is an actual tweet from christy at just thinkin' and me. christy is one of what i would consider my bloggy friends, someone who i wish i could arrange playdates with. she counts gazillions of cells on most days (she's a lab assistant) but has made her passion into a business. we both have 2-year-olds and even if we're separated by oceans, it is safe to say that we encounter almost the same challenges everyday with our kids.
case in point: HOW do you make your child stop whining?!!!
all throughout today, my patience has been tried by my son. when he wants to watch his elmo dvd, he'd keep repeating "elmo" over and over, refusing to listen to reason and explanation. at this point, i would raise my voice and he would crumble and cry. stomp the floor and keep saying, "hindi!" (no!) what he's saying no to, i don't know. once this happens, i completely ignore his pleas. i find this effective, albeit a bit cruel, punishment since i realized that he lives for the attention. he would plea that i give him a hug, but i would refuse. there used to be a time that my heart would break when this happens, but now it's a bit easier because it has to be done.
but still, there has to be a more efficient way of doing this, something with less heartache and less noise. is there like a pill i can slip into his meals or something?
how do you deal with the whining?
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ReplyDeletexo Erin
So you're saying that our sweet 6-week-old will start whining someday? I'm taking her back... Good luck with it! I'm fairly confident kids do that for the attention, so you're doing the right thing by ignoring him- it's actually good for him.
ReplyDeleteOh wow! Ben has not started any whining yet at 16 months old now... I am trying to think positive in terms of 'terrific twos' instead of 'terrible twos' :D
ReplyDeleteBtw, thanks for your comment in my horrible childhood. Your brother's case is scary too. Thank you for adding 1 more thing to my list of concern.. bah......
oh my sissy, been there! naiblog ko rin ata tong terrible twos hehe lahat talaga tayo dadaan jan :) ive almost gave up na rin nun grave! kaka tuyo no, wlang rason iiyak hahaha what worked for me, timeout pareho kami.. pabayaan siya for sure tatahan din e.. then pag okay na saka ko siya kakausapin.. buti nga di siya masydong nagtagal sa stage na yun e.. dapt tlga maintndhan natin n stages lang yun.. kc once na accept mo, mejo malelessen na yun impact sayo ng tantrums nia.. hope this helps sissy!
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I remember the "terrible twos" and yes, they were exasperating. But the voices our children find through claiming their independence is pretty awesome when you get to look back at it from where I stand—my oldest daughter is now 22 and the younger is 18. You get through it a day at a time and then you get to smile from the misty fog of the future.
ReplyDeleteI've learned that while most people realize that babies' bodies grow and know to expect some upset with things like teething - most don't recognize that 2 years old are maturing and have emotional growth spirts that are very frustrating and confusing to them - as much as it is to you. You have to find a way to live through it - without slipping the kid a pill. Smile. I understand your frustration and pain. But it'll get better and you'll blink twice and look up and they'll be teenagers - going through more emotional growth spirts - May God be with you.
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I really hate to tell you this but I have a 4 yo who still whines ALLLLL THE TIME!
ReplyDeleteIt drives me bonkers. I wish that there was something that seemed to work really well but I haven't been able to figure it out yet.
I have found that the whining starts to subside when they are old enough to understand consequences that are undesirable that arise from whining. I think my 6-year-old still whines, but it's easier to curb with her when I say, "D...you are WHINING! Ask in a normal voice"
ReplyDeleteThe 4-year-old whines the worst of all my children. I am praying for the day she gets over it!!! And I really hope my son doesn't whine too much...we'll see.
Just another one of those things we parents deal with and overcome.