from spa to sisters

last week, i had my first massage in months. okay, that's stretching it a bit.  i haven't had a massage in almost a year! heck, i haven't had a day to myself ever since i can remember.  a day off with the girlfriends? forget about it.

i never went because always i felt guilty about leaving jackjack. i feel like a bad mom, only thinking of herself, while her son is miserable at home with daddy, pining for her return. yes, i know, he'll probably cry for a minute or two, then go back to playing or the backyardigans. sure, he'll ask where mommy is once in a while and his dad would ask in return, "where is she?" and he'll know.

another reason why i don't go is that i miss my friends. i'm the only one who is married with child in the group. actually, there's another one, but there's a spa at her condo. i used to like going to the spa or having my nails done by myself, but ever since i became a mom i long for adult conversations. i crave adult company. don't get me wrong; i love spending time with j, but there are things that you can only tell your girlfriends. it's not half as fun without them.

we all have burdens to bear, issues to resolve. they're busy with their careers and their pursuit of love. i have a son to take care of, a household to manage. somewhere in between that, we strive to find time to meet up and be together. so what if they are far and between? if they happen to be my son's birthday or another friend's christening? all the more that the time should be cherished and remembered. because after more than a decade, we can still stand each other.

do you still get to see your girlfriends? what is your favorite way to relax and bond?